Ask anyone who knew the softball side of Alex Allison, and they would tell you that was a signature of his coaching.
If one of his athletes smiled a lot, he would attach the name ‘Smiley’ to that individual. Same deal for kids who repeated the same phrase or made a joke that stuck with Allison. He didn’t forget those nicknames.
Neither did his athletes, who saw the nicknames as a demonstration of how personal and caring Allison was toward each of them.
“When I was younger, I was kind of quiet and shy,” Teagan Kavan, one of Allison’s former students, said. “He would work with me, and I would always just answer, ‘Ya.’ So, he nicknamed me Ya-Ya.
“He made a shirt, and he would wear it to each of my lessons. That just shows how he was and how much he cared about each of us.”
He left an impact on Kavan, but she wasn’t a unique story.
The 85-year-old coach taught lessons about softball and life for decades until his death on May 21 after a battle with leukemia.
But for athletes like Kavan – and many more – Allison's legacy lives on. Despite being a little-known name outside of the Des Moines softball world, he is remembered as someone who cared – about the game, but more about the athletes he worked with.
Daughters' hobby develops dad's love for softball
Both of Allison’s daughters – Christine Mann and Stephanie Cox – played softball. After spending most of her youth in the outfield, Cox decided she wanted to pitch.
So, as Allison did with most things, he dove in headfirst, determined to foster his daughter’s interest.
The duo attended men’s fast-pitch softball games. Sometimes, Allison and his daughter stayed after until 10 p.m., meeting with different players and collecting tips on how Cox could become a prolific pitcher. Allison took notes and talked through some of the pitches he liked.
Allison owned a mechanical business, so he was, by profession, a tinkerer. That extended into his hobby, where he became a student of the game.
Slowly but surely, he helped his daughter learn how to pitch.
In doing so, he became quite the pitching coach.
“That’s kind of how he learned,” Cox said. “He and I, that was our bond and something we had fun doing together.”
From supportive father to successful pitching coach
Allison’s love of softball started with his daughters' passion for the sport.
But he continued helping young players long after his daughters’ careers concluded.
Cox played varsity softball at Valley for all four years of her high school career, then took her talents to Central College. She admits that her father’s coaching career – more of a favorite hobby – took off after she graduated from high school.
Parents saw something in Allison: how he helped Cox become a successful pitcher after a relatively late start at the position.
“That’s when I think he got more involved,” Valley softball coach Tom Bakey said. “He really loved the game and wanted to stay involved in the game.”
Bakey – one of those fast-pitch players that Allison took Cox to see – played a part in Allison’s dedication to growing the game. He would host clinics for youth players in West Des Moines and often invited Allison to help coach.
The most frequent question Bakey fielded was whether he offered private lessons. Bakey works as a full-time physical education teacher, helps coach sophomore football and jokes that he wants to remain married.
So, the answer to that question was always ‘no.’
That wasn’t the case for Allison, who liked the social aspect of one-on-one coaching. He would take on an athlete and rent gym space or facilities – sometimes training out of his own business’ warehouse.
And if there was one thing about Allison, it was that he wasn’t in the coaching business for the money.
Cox shared that her father charged $30, about half of what other pitching coaches charged per hour, and that rate never changed over his decades of instruction. He didn’t hesitate to offer his services free of charge for those families that couldn’t afford it, either.
“A lot of the time, people wanted to get help for their kids but didn’t have the economic means,” Bakey said. “Making that one dollar wasn’t important to Alex as much as it was the willingness to help someone and see that smile on a kid’s face.
“He would work with anyone. He had a kind heart, and he helped lots and lots of kids.”
Allison had a hand in the development of some top Iowa softball pitchers
Kavan, a true freshman pitcher, helped Texas softball to a runner-up finish in the Women’s College World Series earlier this month.
She earned the title of Big 12 Softball Freshman of the Year and finished her first collegiate season with a 20-3 record, 135 strikeouts and a 2.20 ERA. Her success started long before taking her game to Austin, as she was the youngest of 32 athletes invited to try out for the 2021 USA Softball U19 Women’s National Team.
Her pathway to success, though, began with pitching lessons from Allison.
“He was my first pitching coach,” Kavan said. “For around five or six years, he was the person my mom trusted for a long time to get me started on the right path. When I was younger, he was perfect for me.”
Bakey noted that Allison focused on the fundamentals. The two coaches shared similar philosophies and teaching styles.
While Bakey found success on the field – with multiple state titles – Allison's success was measured by the growth of his athletes. And Kavan credits her former coach with much of her early development.
“I owe him a lot,” Kavan said. “His attention to detail really helped me. It was something new every week and something that wasn’t always easy. If I didn’t start with a good foundation from him, I probably wouldn’t be where I am today.”
That’s high praise coming from a pitcher who just last week competed for a national championship.
Kavan moved on from Allison’s coaching at around 14 years old, when she started high school and focused on club softball. But she never forgot the lessons of her first coach, especially how much more he cared about her well-being than how well she threw a softball.
She remembered how he wanted to know about his athletes’ lives and turned bad days into good ones. He was never afraid to stand up and advocate for his athletes. That same fearlessness extended to calling out the behavior of his athletes, when necessary.
Athletes knew where they stood with Allison, and most appreciated that openness.
Kavan knew that Allison wanted the best for her, even outside of the diamond. But the lesson that stuck with her the most was about life outside of the game.
“He always preached keeping the game fun,” Kavan said. “And when it becomes work, it’s not worth it anymore.”
Allison made an impact while shying away from the spotlight
Allison developed players in the darkness.
He never coached a high school team. Never up-charged his athletes. Never looked for the limelight.
A quick Google search reveals little about his dedication to softball.
Those who didn’t know Allison well may have never guessed that the older man – missing parts of three fingers, blown off by a dynamite cap used on the ranches he grew up on – laid the foundation for some of Des Moines’ best pitchers.
Allison was just a father who loved the sport his daughters played, and he wanted to share that love with other young athletes.
“He was selfless, compassionate, and it came naturally,” Cox said. “He just put people before himself. If you needed him, he was there.”