CHANDLER, AZ—Ruth Marianne Carey, 96, passed away peacefully Wednesday, July 30, 2025, under the care of hospice in Chandler, Arizona, surrounded by her four devoted daughters.She was 96 years young, a woman whose kindness, joy, and devout faith touched all who knew her.The heavens welcomed a remarkable soul — a loving wife, mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, great-grandmother, cherished friend, thoughtful neighbor, and devoted servant of God.Ruth was born Nov. 18, 1928, in Orange City, Iowa, to William and ...
CHANDLER, AZ—Ruth Marianne Carey, 96, passed away peacefully Wednesday, July 30, 2025, under the care of hospice in Chandler, Arizona, surrounded by her four devoted daughters.
She was 96 years young, a woman whose kindness, joy, and devout faith touched all who knew her.
The heavens welcomed a remarkable soul — a loving wife, mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, great-grandmother, cherished friend, thoughtful neighbor, and devoted servant of God.
Ruth was born Nov. 18, 1928, in Orange City, Iowa, to William and Jeanette (Balkema) Van Roekel. After the early loss of both parents, Ruth was raised by her grandparents, Sen. Nicholas and Clara Balkema, along with the loving support of extended family in Sioux Center, Iowa. Despite such a profound loss in childhood, she carried herself with resilience and a quiet optimism that defined her life. She attended local schools and showed an early zest for learning and leadership.
She went on to graduate from Iowa State University with a degree in Home Economics Education. During her time at ISU, Ruth thrived as a leader — serving as president of Alpha Gamma Delta sorority, performing in singing groups, participating in advisory councils, and cheering on the Cyclones as a spirited Iowa State cheerleader for four years. She was honored by her peers as both “Big Junior” and “Big Senior” woman — clear recognition of the energy and heart she brought to everything she did. In 2004, Ruth was honored by the University with the prestigious Helen LeBaron Hilton Award for alumni who are nationally and internationally recognized for their leadership, service, and accomplishments in the areas of family and consumer sciences. Sitting on the sidelines simply wasn’t her style.
While at Iowa State, Ruth met the love of her life, Richard “Dick” Carey. After his military service and completion of law school, they married and embarked on what would become a 72-year journey of unwavering partnership. Together they built a family rooted in faith and love. They welcomed their first daughter, Debra, in 1952, followed by Jill in 1955, Kimberly in 1957, and Lisa in 1958. Being a mother was one of Ruth’s greatest joys — her devotion to her daughters was unconditional and always inspiring.
From a young age, Ruth believed deeply in the power of kindness and the importance of helping others — values she lived out in every chapter of her life. Her favorite motto, “find the joy in everything,” guided her actions, and she brought that joy into every space she entered. Ruth gave generously of her time and talents, serving for many years in P.E.O., Art Club, and numerous committees at Westminster Presbyterian Church. She traveled on mission trips to Honduras, Haiti, and the Rosebud Indian Reservation, never shying away from hard work or heartfelt conversations. Whether writing and delivering speeches, organizing events, or simply being a compassionate listener, Ruth left a meaningful imprint on countless lives.
Ruth was preceded in death by her beloved husband, Dick, her parents and grandparents, her sister, Clara Moomey, and her brother, Kenneth Van Roekel. She leaves behind a legacy of love and strength through her four daughters: Debra Carey Hacker (Warren) of Phoenix, Arizona; Jill Carey Mordini (Bob) of Denver, Colorado; Kimberly Carey Weaver (Rick) of Chandler, Arizona; and Lisa Carey Ritchie (Ty) of Englewood, Colorado. She was the proud grandmother of Carey, Chelsea, Paige, Ben, Haley, and Ellie, and the adoring great-grandmother of Peyton, Luke, Reagan, Will, Jack, Tommy, and Charlie.
Ruth’s love was expansive and enduring. She gave it freely and left it behind as her most precious gift.
A private family service will be held in Iowa, with burial at the Iowa Veterans Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, memorials may be directed to the Iowa Veterans Cemetery (34024 Veterans Memorial Drive, Adel, Iowa 50003) or to the charity of your choice.