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Melanie Depamphilis, a firefighter for the Newington Volunteer Fire Department (NVFD), recently filed a lawsuit against the Town and its Board of Fire Commissioners (BOFC), alleging sexual harassment and discrimination. It’s the second sexual harassment lawsuit brought against Newington’s BOFC since 2023.
“Over the course of Ms. Depamphilis’ career, she has witnessed, and has been personally subjected to, a hostile work environment, gender/sex harassment and discrimination, and retaliation by male members of the Board of Fire Commissioners for the Town of Newington (“BOFC”) and the NVFD,” reads the suit.
Depamphilis claims the harassment was retaliatory in nature, occurring after she provided testimony in a suit filed by Meghan Manke, another former Newington firefighter who alleged sexual harassment in 2023. Depamphilis states she was subpoenaed to appear at a deposition for Manke’s suit around June 9, 2023.
Per Depamphilis’ suit, Manke accused the fire commission and a fellow member of the fire department, of ?”retaliation, hostile work environment, sex harassment and gender discrimination in connection with her receipt of a package in the mail from a fellow male member of the NVFD containing a chocolate penis with a note telling her to ‘Eat a Dick.’”
Depamphilis named Fire Chief Jeffrey Trommer, Deputy Chief Craig Stegmaier, and Firefighter Bryan Whalen as co-defendants in the suit. She said the retaliation against her began on July 4, 2023, when Trommer “became extremely angry, aggressive, and belittling towards Ms. Dephamphilis at a fire call incident.” Around the same time, Depamphilis reported her leather Captain’s helmet as being taken from her locker. She was accused of losing the helmet, an accusation she asserts was false.
“An investigation was never undertaken and she was never given a replacement helmet,” read the suit.
On July 11, Depamphilis was told that Whalen was holding onto pornography in his firehouse locker. As Depamphilis was a Captain, and the materials violated the firehouse rules and the Town’s sexual harassment policies, she told Whalen to “immediately remove” the material from his locker. When she asked her first and second lieutenants to confirm that Whalen complied, Whalen “became extremely aggressive in response,” per the suit.
“Concerned for the safety of NVFD members, Ms. Depamphilis asked Whalen to calm down,” read the suit. “Whalen became aggressive, angry and belligerent and screamed at Ms. Depamphilis, ‘You’ll be sorry for doing this’ and ‘You’re gonna wish this didn’t happen,’ and ‘I will have your job for this.’”
The next day, Depamphilis submitted a Memorandum of Firefighter Conduct to Deputy Chief Stegmaier, outlining Whalen’s behavior leading up to and during the incident. A week later, she asked Stegmaier to investigate Whalen’s actions, “as she was concerned for her safety, and was being subjected to continuing harassment and a hostile work environment.” According to the lawsuit, she also followed up with fellow officers, Deputy Chief Jack Nesklada and Assistant Chief Tom Lapierre.
“The BOFC and NVFD did not conduct any investigation unto Ms. Depamphilis’ hostile work environment and discrimination complaint,” read the suit. “The actions of Whalen, members of the NVFD, and the BOFC created a pervasive and hostile work environment characterized by unlawful harassment of a sexually based nature, which permeated the Plaintiff’s workplace.”
On July 18, 2023, Depamphilis was called into a meeting with Stegmaier and Lapierre, which she assumed was for the purpose of discussing the incident with Whalen. Instead, Depamphilis says Stegmaier used the meeting to inform her that Trommer requested she be disciplined regarding her conduct at the July 4 fire call, and for an incident that allegedly occurred at an awards event held by the department on June 3rd.
Depamphilis claims that she was not aware of any discipline for either event prior to the meeting, and again requested Stegmaier address her earlier concerns.
“Despite Ms. Depamphilis’ best efforts to continue to lead her Company in such a harassing, hostile, and retaliatory environment, Trommer and other male members of the NVFD belittled her authority as a Captain, and refused to properly communicate with her, putting her safety, as well as the safety of her Company and the public, in jeopardy,” read the suit.
On Aug. 3, Whalen filed a hostile work environment and harassment complaint against Depamphilis. On Aug. 7, the suit claims, Stegmaier sent an email to then mayor, Beth Kinsey DelBuono, and an unnamed member of the Town Council, accusing Depamphilis of “circumventing the chain of command with respect to Whalen,” and of “portraying the NVFD in a negative light due to ‘personal vendettas.’”
On Aug. 9, a disciplinary notice for the alleged June 3rd incident was placed in Depamphilis’ personnel file. Depamphilis said that she was never informed of this notice, and that it “falsely stated” that a meeting occurred on Aug. 9 to discuss the incident, a meeting Depamphilis claims never happened.
On Aug. 10, Depamphilis sent an email to Stegmaier, DelBuono, and “various members” of the department and BOFC, saying she was being harassed and subjected to a hostile work environment in retaliation for her involvement in Manke’s suit, her investigation into Whalen, and for the Aug. 9 disciplinary notice. She requested that the retaliation end, though it is unclear if she ever received a response.
On Aug. 16, Trommer filed a complaint against Depamphilis, accusing her of creating a hostile work environment, defamation of character, and harassment. The suit said that the complaint included “over 28 allegations against Ms. Dempamphilis that dated back as far as 2016.” On Aug. 17, Depamphilis was placed on administrative leave as a result of Whalen’s and Trommer’s complaints, and was locked out of the firehouse, her email and her file access.
“The discipline imposed on Ms. Depamphilis by the BOFC was a pretext to cover up the discriminatory and retaliatory conduct to which she had been continually subjected,” reads the suit.
On Sept. 1, 2023, the Town hired a third-party to investigate the complaints against Depamphilis, and seventeen people were interviewed. The suit alleges that the investigation ended on Sept. 28, and the written report cleared Depamphilis of any wrongdoing. As a result, Depamphilis said she “requested on numerous occasions” to be taken off administrative leave, but both the BOFC and NVFD refused to do so.
On Oct. 10, 2023, Depamphilis says she was told that the BOFC intended to go into executive session at an Oct. 12 board meeting, and that she, Whalen and Trommer would be asked to join them. Depamphilis was not told what the purpose of the meeting would be, and she requested the conversation occur during the open meeting portion. On Oct. 11, she was told she would not have to attend because “the [third-party] investigation had not been completed.”
The BOFC changed the meeting agenda to say that the reason for the executive session was to discuss an update to the final investigative report. Whalen and Trommer were invited to attend the executive session, along with the third-party investigating attorney, but Depamphilis says she was not allowed to join. On Oct. 14, Depamphilis says she was told that BOFC Commissioner Kent Stoddard was requesting her interview recording from the investigation, and was given two days to accept or deny this request.
That same day, she says she told the BOFC that she couldn’t sign off on the request without knowing the reason for it, “as the investigative summary was marked attorney-client privileged, and contained personal and confidential information.” She also requested, again, that she be taken off administrative leave. The BOFC did not respond to Depamphilis’ request for clarity on the investigation interview or change in work status.
Depamphilis claims in the suit that the BOFC’s refusal to take her off administrative leave prevented her from applying to the position of Deputy Fire Chief, a position that NVFD posted on Oct. 23. On Oct. 30, she sent another letter to the mayor, town attorney, and BOFC, requesting she be taken off administrative leave. On Nov. 6, she was finally notified that she was removed from leave, and would return to her position as Fire Captain, but was also notified that she was being placed on one-year probation.
The letter informing her of this said it was due to “‘issues related to the morale at Company 2’ and ‘actions and behavior’ not becoming of an officer of the FD,” per the suit. The BOFC also admitted in the letter to have listened to the interviews conducted in the third-party investigation, and Depamphilis claims that she was “at no time” interviewed or “given the opportunity to respond to any of the baseless allegations made against her.”
The letter also went on to accuse her of having “discrepancies” between her resume and the State Fire Training Academy, and requested she provide copies of her certifications to Stegmaier within 30 days. The suit states that Depamphilis had never had her qualifications questioned prior to the letter, and that the certifications requested of her had already been provided to the department when she first applied for the job, and had been reviewed several times thereafter. On Dec. 12, she attended a meeting in which she provided all copies of her various certifications they requested of her, but on Dec. 18, she was told she was being demoted “on the grounds that she did not have the Fire Officer 1 class certification.”
The suit claims that not only did Depamphilis have this certification and provide proof of it at the Dec. 12 meeting, but that various other high-ranking members of the department didn’t have it and retained their positions. Depamphilis was demoted again on Dec. 20, with the decision allegedly being made by the BOFC behind closed doors in an executive session at a special meeting.
“At no time did Ms. Depamphilis receive notice of the December 20, 2023, Special Meeting,” reads the suit. “The removal of Ms. Depamphilis as Captain and demotion to firefighter on the basis that she was not qualified for the position because of her lack of proper credentials was a pretext to cover up the discriminatory and retaliatory conduct to which Ms. Depamphilis had been continually subjected to.”
Depamphilis alleged that the discrimination against her has caused her to “suffer from emotional distress, physical and psychological harm, including but not limited to anguish, loss of sleep, damage to reputation, anxiety and humiliation,” and that she has “suffered economic losses, including a loss of pay and benefits.”
Inside Investigator reached out to Stegmaier and Trommer for comment. While Trommer is currently out of office, Stegmaier told Inside Investigator that “due to the pending claims, court filings, and this being a personnel matter, I am unable to comment on this matter.”