The Lily House helps mothers recovering from addiction reclaim their lives with the hope of reuniting with their children
ABERDEEN, Md. —
A Harford County recovery home offers a second chance at motherhood by helping women in recovery rebuild their lives and reunite with their children.
Mom once thought her life was lost to addiction
Lacey Sheckles' bedroom is full of toys, photos and inspirational quotes that are all signs of a life she once thought she lost to addiction.
"It inspires me. It's kind of where I'm at now and where I'm going and where I'm looking to stay," Sheckles told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates. "I was in a motorcycle accident, and then, prescribed (pain medications) by the doctor, and then it went from there."
The painkillers spiraled into use of heroin and fentanyl before an overdose landed Sheckles in jail and away from her daughter, Aryannah. Eventually, Sheckles' mother could no longer care for Aryannah.
"It displaced Aryannah, put her in foster care," Sheckles told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates. "I was clean. I was two months clean at the time, but I still wasn't clean enough to have Aryannah back."
Sheckles needed out of the cycle and ultimately was introduced to Heidi Gerard, the founder and executive director of The Lily House. It's a home built on second chances, where mothers recovering from addiction work to reclaim their lives with the hope of reuniting with their children.
"You can do anything as long as you have love and support," Gerard told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates. "People have to believe in you for you to be able to make the next step."
"You can do anything as long as you have love and support."
Gerard, a mother of four, had already been through her own recovery journey and made it her mission to help others. She started working as a family recovery court coordinator while running her support organization, ChrysantheMoms, and opening The Lily House.
Mothers fighting to get their children back
Women who stay at The Lily House have fought addiction and now are fighting to get their children back. And women like Sheckles say the house is more than a place to stay, it has led her to reunification.
"It's been the difference, completely. It's been the difference," Sheckles told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates.
Amber Whitaker, a social worker with the Harford County Department of Social Services, connected Sheckles with the recovery home.
"There are not a lot of homes that can support women in recovery and also create space for their children," Whitaker told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates.
Having been in foster care herself, Whitaker said the priority is to keep children with relatives when possible, and ultimately, reunite them with their parents.
"It is our goal in almost every single case that we get. It's very rare that we get a case where reunification is not our mission," Whitaker told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates.
For Sheckles, that meant one visit after another until social services decided it was safe for Aryannah to come home.
"Ultimately, that turned into, well, 'She's doing really well there. So, I don't see a reason to keep doing this back and forth between foster mom and mom,'" Whitaker told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates.
The moment she worked so hard to reach has arrived
Sheckles found out just before Christmas that the moment she had worked so hard for had finally arrived.
"That was like one of the best Christmas gifts I could have ever got because she called me that week — and I didn't think it was going to happen — and she was like, 'I worked it out. Aryannah is going to be with you Christmas Day.' And, I'm like, 'Oh my God, thank the Lord," Sheckles told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates.
In the two and a half years since opening, Sheckles is one of 32 women and 59 children who have come through The Lily House.
"I've seen so many women cry about not having and not being believed in, and the trauma that they come from. My trauma doesn't compare to what they've been through," Gerard told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates.
"It's very rare that we get a case where reunification is not our mission."
The women said foster care is about more than the removal, but also the work that goes into rebuilding a family.
"Foster care is very seldom ever about love. Every parent I've ever worked with loves their child just as much as I do, but maybe they don't have the resources. Maybe they've had significant trauma that they haven't had a chance to overcome," Whitaker told WBAL-TV 11 News Investigates. "So, having a department and community partners that can put those pieces together and help lead parents to a better way of life is really what it's all about."
Two years into recovery, Sheckles now has symbols of success sitting in her room, including a family recovery court program graduation certificate. She has a job, goes to school and manages the very house that gave her a second chance at motherhood.