When I told the Editor that I had been invited to lunch by the headmistress of St Mary’s School Ascot, he made a bid to join me. But I had to be firm: “I need to be able to focus,” I explained, as I left him at his desk. After all, it’s not every day you get to meet the people who run arguably the most prestigious and successful girls’ school in the country.
Danuta Staunton has been headmistress of St Mary’s for the last six years. Tall and striking, she was anointed by her long-serving predecessor, Mary Breen, and took up the role in her early thirties. It seems young, but she has already proven herself to be more than equal to the task. Polish, but born and bred in London (both sets of grandparents came over after the Second World War), she is warm and approachable. She is keen that the school is a jolly place, and in this she leads from the front, exuding positivity and happiness.
We are joined by the school’s relatively new chaplain, Canon PJ Smith, a former dean of Portsmouth Cathedral, who is also episcopal vicar for education for the whole diocese. Hailing from the Wirral, Canon PJ felt his first call to the priesthood aged seven. “I knew then that one day I would show Christ to the people,” he explains. After a stint in the City, he went to Allen Hall Seminary in Chelsea, before serving in various dioceses around the country. Delighted with his first school-based role, he is clearly devoted to the girls and to the school.
Formerly run by members of the Institute of the Blessed Virgin Mary (Mrs Staunton is only its second headmistress not to be a nun), St Mary’s continues to maintain the Catholic faith at its heart. The ornate chapel is right in the middle of the school, practically opposite the refectory, and is always open for prayer. Mass is compulsory every Sunday and the girls play an active role. The “liturgy captains”, for example, prepare the chapel for Mass and help distribute Holy Communion. Confession is especially popular, says Canon PJ, although he thinks that might have something to do with the fact that there are always chocolates in his office. Annual celebrations of the school’s foundress, Mary Ward, include a 12-foot chocolate cake which takes up two whole tables in the refectory.
While at other Catholic independent schools numbers of Catholics pupils are dwindling, at St Mary’s 98 per cent are Catholic. The remaining two per cent will have had some special dispensation, such as an alumna mother or perhaps a difficult family situation. The school refuses to compromise on this or indeed on anything else, which presumably is the key to its success. “We don’t worry too much about what other schools are doing,” explains Canon PJ. “We know who we are.”
St Mary’s is selective and has its own entrance exams. Mrs Staunton suggests people apply two years in advance to ensure a place on the waiting list. They close the books once they have two applicants per place, and siblings and daughters of alumnae take preference. The school takes around 40 girls at 11 and a further 20 at 13, with a few more joining for sixth form. For those wanting to join at 11, there is an English, Maths and General Paper to sit, as well as an interview, while at 13 there are more exams, including a compulsory Latin paper. Staff then decide, based on a variety of factors, not just exam results – the school is not a hothouse, says Mrs Staunton – which girls are the right fit for the school.
After lunch I am shown around by Flavia, who is in the lower sixth form and hoping to study computer science at an American university. Wearing her own navy blue trousers and a cream jumper (sixth-formers are not required to wear uniform), she looks me in the eye and shakes my hand, and then engages me in conversation with more confidence and composure than the average adult. She is half-Dutch and half-Spanish and speaks both languages fluently. The Spanish comes in useful, she says, as of the 15 per cent of overseas students, a significant proportion come from Spain (others come from Hong Kong, Italy, Belgium, the US and Nigeria).
Flavia shows me the tennis courts, ballet studio, athletics track and swimming pool – and the theatre where productions take place throughout the year, some produced by the girls themselves. The art rooms are magnificent and there are three libraries, each catering to a different age group. The new sixth-form quarters mean that each girl has her own room in her final two years.
Like many schools, St Mary’s has passed on most of the new 20 per cent VAT to parents, which means that its fees are now over £21,000 per term.
“I hope you thank your parents every day for sending you here,” I say to Flavia. She tells me she does appreciate how lucky she is, and I believe her.
(Photographs courtesy of St Mary’s School Ascot)
This article appeared in the February edition of the Catholic Herald. To subscribe to our award-winning, thought-provoking magazine and have independent, high-calibre, counter-cultural and orthodox Catholic journalism delivered to your door anywhere in the world click HERE.