The first time I saw Nancy Grace, I was afraid to interview her.
It was 1989, my first year at The Hartford Courant. I was sent to cover the Class S field hockey state semifinal. Canton, coached by Grace, was playing Granby, its archrival, coached by Dot Johnson. Granby won and went onto the state finals.
I couldn’t look away from Grace the entire game; she yelled at her players, yelled at officials. I had covered a lot of field hockey and I had never seen a field hockey coach act like that before. After the game, she just looked mad. I interviewed Johnson and a few Granby players – then left.
A few years later, I had grown to appreciate her (and had interviewed her many times) and realized her intensity and desire for her kids to play their best pushed her to act the way she did. Grace, who was also a science teacher, coached for 20 years, and her Canton Warrior field hockey teams won eight state titles between 1985-1999. She retired from coaching in 2004.
Her yelling and shrill voice belied her off-field persona – she was funny, sarcastic and a great friend. She cared deeply about her teams and players, her friends and family, and that care was fiercely reciprocated. I also felt that if Grace was coaching, say, men’s basketball, or even boys basketball, rather than high school field hockey, her sideline behavior would have been considered more acceptable.
But the voice has been silenced: Grace, 65, of Avon, died Wednesday morning after a long battle with cancer.
“She had the mindset of a warrior; she had the mindset of a champion,” said Laura Mack, who graduated in 2000 after winning three state titles. “She was fearless. She made us fearless. She refused to let us be anything but the best we could be.
“She impacted more young people in one season than the average person does in a lifetime.”
Many of her former players are field hockey coaches today, like Liz deSimas Schuellein at Greens Farms Academy in Westport.
“She was one of the first people to hold us accountable for not playing up to our potential,” said Schuellein, a 1994 Canton High graduate who won two state titles.
“We could be winning by a lot at halftime, and she’d pull us aside and ream into us and we were like, ‘You’re right.’ People were like, ‘You’re winning, that’s crazy,’ but it was her standard. And after, she’d be clowning around and laughing with us … ‘Were the veins on my face popping out?’”
Many who officiated her games, however, were not amused by Grace’s antics. In 1997, the officials board ethics committee warned Canton High in a letter that if Grace’s behavior continued and remained unchecked, “We may be unable to service Canton High School for the 1998 season.”
The issue was resolved, officials still worked at Canton games and Grace continued to gripe at them. But Grace, who played field hockey at Canton before graduating in 1976, never got a red card and was never thrown out of a game.
“I think it’s the tone of my voice that does it to people,” Grace said in 1997. “If I took myself out of my body and sat and watched the crazy things that I’ve done, I would probably think the same thing.”
Joe Scheideler worked with Grace for seven years as the Canton athletic director. His daughter, Jen, played for the 1995 team that won the state championship.
“How many times have I seen her call a timeout, shred them and then they go out and score a goal?” Scheideler said in 1997. “If she was coaching a guys’ team, people would admire her intensity and admire her success.”
Her best memories? In 2004, when she retired from coaching, she told a story about how Granby outplayed Canton both times in the regular season in 1985, her first year of coaching. The two NCCC teams ended up in the Class S state championship game.
“We were total underdogs,” she said then. “We made it to the finals, and it was like a shooting clinic on us and somehow we kept it out. Back then, we just did one 10-minute OT and we managed to tie it [0-0].”
Granby and Canton were declared co-champions, Grace’s first title as a coach.
Grace also coached Canton to its only state softball title in 1991.
In 1993, Canton had a 47-game win streak end in a 2-2 tie against defending Class M champion Enfield. Down 2-0 with four minutes to go, Grace called a timeout and fired up her players, and the Warriors rallied to score two goals to avert the loss. The story made the front page of The Courant’s sports section, likely the only time a regular-season high school field hockey game had that distinction. Canton would return the favor in 1995, ending Enfield’s 39-game win streak with a 2-1 victory.
At Canton High’s home field, players would take lime and write “GRACELAND” on the side of the hill before games. Fans lined the sidelines. The field hockey games were big events. Officials didn’t like to work either side of the field because Grace would be yelling at them on one side and her mother would be yelling on the other.
“We got a sign in our town: ‘Home of the Champions,’” Schuellein said. “People were coming to our games. We were like the football team. We had a lot of fans.”
Schuellein didn’t lose a game until her senior year. Of course, the players cried. Grace wasn’t having it.
“She was like, ‘Stop crying,’” Schuellein said. “We were like, ‘We just lost, we don’t lose.’ She was like, ‘I don’t care. Shake their hands. Let’s go. Stop feeling sorry for yourselves.’ She didn’t have any sympathy for us. It was a good reality check.”
Canton didn’t win a title in 1993 but the Warriors were the Class S runners-up in 1994 and won in 1995, as well as in 1997, ’98 and ’99.
Like the other former players who coach, Anna Norland, a 1994 Canton graduate who coaches at Northwestern Regional High School, called Grace often to ask for advice. She puts notes with a quote or saying on her players’ lockers on game days, just like Grace used to do.
She remembered a game at E.O. Smith, where Canton was winning 7-0 at halftime.
“I can’t remember what the problem was,” Norland said. “We weren’t passing or playing well. She was livid. Shaking. She said, ‘If you want to play an individual sport, you can go home and play tiddlywinks!” I was like, ‘What’s tiddlywinks?’ I didn’t say it out loud.
“We went back out there and won 14-0. E.O. Smith had a goalie and two field players in their goal.”
Grace, whose record was 295-43-33, is in the Connecticut High School Coaches Association Hall of Fame and the Connecticut Field Hockey Hall of Fame. She also served as athletic director at Canton after she retired from coaching and was the state tournament director from 1987-95.
Grace and Johnson had fierce battles in the NCCC, between 1985 and 2002, when Johnson retired. Either Granby or Canton was in the state championship game 15 of those 18 years. Canton won eight titles; Granby two. Grace held a 22-13-5 edge over Johnson from 1985-2002.
Johnson told The Courant in 2014 that her players used to tell her, “I’d never play for her, she’s so mean!”
“It was like a tournament game,” Grace said then of playing Granby. “I told them, ‘You’ve got to leave every single ounce on the field. That’s our practice for tournament.’“
Johnson said Wednesday: “We were such rivals. When we started coaching against each other, it was like, ‘Raahhh.’”
She laughed.
“Then after many years, we got to know each other better and had some good laughs. She was an excellent coach. I just feel really bad right now.”
Originally Published: October 4, 2024 at 6:00 AM EDT